Post by Smirkin on Sept 7, 2022 23:53:47 GMT -5
Little:
A little is someone that likes to act younger then they really are. It's kind of like having an alter ego that's much younger then yourself. Most littles don't act little 24/7, but when they do slip into their younger alter ego it's called slipping into headspace.
When a little is in headspace that is when they are at their most submissive and most vulnerable, and sometimes even talk higher pitch or with more of a lisp then normal. They're more prone to emotional outbursts like throwing a tantrum or getting overly excited about something. They are also the most needy in this state, as they are not thinking like a grown up but like a child, and need a bit more guidance and reassurance. Some littles are shyer in headspace while others may become more outgoing. Every little is different and has their own headspace unique to them.
Now this was originally posted on a now dead site. Sadly. But the contents of the thread that I'm going to share are worth reading. There will be bits of pieces of discussion quoted into the post as well as sees fit. Please feel free to chime in and express your side and views as they are different from person to person. Please feel free to ask any questions as there are no dumb questions, we are all here to learn.
Another quote from an old friend
A little is someone that likes to act younger then they really are. It's kind of like having an alter ego that's much younger then yourself. Most littles don't act little 24/7, but when they do slip into their younger alter ego it's called slipping into headspace.
When a little is in headspace that is when they are at their most submissive and most vulnerable, and sometimes even talk higher pitch or with more of a lisp then normal. They're more prone to emotional outbursts like throwing a tantrum or getting overly excited about something. They are also the most needy in this state, as they are not thinking like a grown up but like a child, and need a bit more guidance and reassurance. Some littles are shyer in headspace while others may become more outgoing. Every little is different and has their own headspace unique to them.
Now this was originally posted on a now dead site. Sadly. But the contents of the thread that I'm going to share are worth reading. There will be bits of pieces of discussion quoted into the post as well as sees fit. Please feel free to chime in and express your side and views as they are different from person to person. Please feel free to ask any questions as there are no dumb questions, we are all here to learn.
I am a little. I learned this in August of 2012. As I write in discussions online here and on other sites, have discussions with new friends, or read other people’s opinions of littles, I often wonder how many people have any idea what a little really is. Let me say that while a little is like a babygirl (which is the more recognizable term in our community), it really isn't the same. Being a little is not about ageplay or roleplay. It’s not an act or controlled change in behavior that I can turn on and off like a switch. Being a little isn't something I do. Rather, it's who I am. And there lies the big difference... as well as one of the biggest misconceptions about littles.
I have always felt young my entire life. I was the youngest in my family and I still am on my mother's side. In college the majority of my friends were older than me and that was fine. I thought nothing of it... until I got older and I still felt really young. For the longest time I thought these feelings were due to the fact that I had a "young soul", but then I started to fear something was wrong with me; that these idiosyncrasies were simply a mental disorder, like a faulty wiring in my brain. I thought my childlike (over)reactions to something fun or exciting, the way that I giggled, or the fact that I always felt exceptionally young around certain people, males and females, but especially males, was some kind of personality flaw, and that I needed to figure out how to grow up. Now, please don't get me wrong, I am very much your average alpha female in my day job, but outside of work or in social settings, I just always feel... little.
Not long after finding this online world of BDSM (on RD), I discovered Tumblr. Almost immediately I began following a site or two that got me hot and bothered every time they posted something, usually a picture followed by a short story or conversation between a Daddy and his 'little girl'. At first I thought it was incestual, but quickly realized it really wasn't that at all. It was a cute and endearing exchange between a man and a woman. Eventually my Sir at the time (@alexander ) asked me if I had ever considered the notion that I was a little. Though I actually had started to wonder, I hadn’t told him. This was something he just picked up on from my demeanor after meeting me. Over the course of a week or so, we talked about the characteristics of a little, and I couldn't help but notice how every single trait that he described felt like me. It was eye opening. The day I realized I was a little and embraced it was one of the most satisfying moments for me because I finally felt normal. There wasn’t something wrong with my brain. I was a little. I was me.
I would like to reiterate that being a little isn't about incest at all, nor is it a type of age play or roleplay. This also isn't about me missing out on my childhood or wanting to be a kid again. It is an inner feeling that I feel at my core, everyday. I simply feel small, vulnerable, and curious a lot of the time. I like being held and cuddled, even treated like a little girl by a Dom or my Daddy, and even some of my friends here. I like the feeling of being protected, and I appreciate that to a knowledgeable Dom/Daddy, my sudden bursts of giddiness, sadness, jealousy, or frustration are yet another dimension of my littleness. My feelings come on very quickly and are often exaggerated, but at the same time, it takes very little effort to calm me down. A Dom who understands this can laugh at my silliness, say just the right thing, and help me move on.
I was once told that true littles are few and far between. I find it to be something special about the fact that there are as many littles in our community as there are, especially where I live, and I feel lucky to have found a handful who I can call my friends.
*I do hope this insight helps others understand what a little is .... as well as who I am. If you are interested in reading more on this topic, I found a wonderful article on a site called 'A Little Understanding' (http://a-little-understanding.webs.com/whatisalittle.htm) that explains a lot of the differences between littles and babygirls. Please check it out as I think it best describes who I am (and how most littles feel). ~Written by EssenceofRed
I have always felt young my entire life. I was the youngest in my family and I still am on my mother's side. In college the majority of my friends were older than me and that was fine. I thought nothing of it... until I got older and I still felt really young. For the longest time I thought these feelings were due to the fact that I had a "young soul", but then I started to fear something was wrong with me; that these idiosyncrasies were simply a mental disorder, like a faulty wiring in my brain. I thought my childlike (over)reactions to something fun or exciting, the way that I giggled, or the fact that I always felt exceptionally young around certain people, males and females, but especially males, was some kind of personality flaw, and that I needed to figure out how to grow up. Now, please don't get me wrong, I am very much your average alpha female in my day job, but outside of work or in social settings, I just always feel... little.
Not long after finding this online world of BDSM (on RD), I discovered Tumblr. Almost immediately I began following a site or two that got me hot and bothered every time they posted something, usually a picture followed by a short story or conversation between a Daddy and his 'little girl'. At first I thought it was incestual, but quickly realized it really wasn't that at all. It was a cute and endearing exchange between a man and a woman. Eventually my Sir at the time (@alexander ) asked me if I had ever considered the notion that I was a little. Though I actually had started to wonder, I hadn’t told him. This was something he just picked up on from my demeanor after meeting me. Over the course of a week or so, we talked about the characteristics of a little, and I couldn't help but notice how every single trait that he described felt like me. It was eye opening. The day I realized I was a little and embraced it was one of the most satisfying moments for me because I finally felt normal. There wasn’t something wrong with my brain. I was a little. I was me.
I would like to reiterate that being a little isn't about incest at all, nor is it a type of age play or roleplay. This also isn't about me missing out on my childhood or wanting to be a kid again. It is an inner feeling that I feel at my core, everyday. I simply feel small, vulnerable, and curious a lot of the time. I like being held and cuddled, even treated like a little girl by a Dom or my Daddy, and even some of my friends here. I like the feeling of being protected, and I appreciate that to a knowledgeable Dom/Daddy, my sudden bursts of giddiness, sadness, jealousy, or frustration are yet another dimension of my littleness. My feelings come on very quickly and are often exaggerated, but at the same time, it takes very little effort to calm me down. A Dom who understands this can laugh at my silliness, say just the right thing, and help me move on.
I was once told that true littles are few and far between. I find it to be something special about the fact that there are as many littles in our community as there are, especially where I live, and I feel lucky to have found a handful who I can call my friends.
*I do hope this insight helps others understand what a little is .... as well as who I am. If you are interested in reading more on this topic, I found a wonderful article on a site called 'A Little Understanding' (http://a-little-understanding.webs.com/whatisalittle.htm) that explains a lot of the differences between littles and babygirls. Please check it out as I think it best describes who I am (and how most littles feel). ~Written by EssenceofRed
Another quote from an old friend
@essenceofred Bra...fucking...vo. I just now read this and being a Daddy Dom (Which I constantly need to explain isnt an incestuous state or being) it is refreshing to see someone explain the little aspect in such a humble and sincere manner.
The Daddy Dom/"girl" aspect is one of the more misunderstood relationships around, and by extension, so are those titles. I am often asked if there is a want to relive childhood for my sub, or if there are father issues, etc. None of that is further from the truth, in my case...and many others. It is just as described. I allow her to be more open, vulnerable, free; all while knowing she is protected, safe and looked after. If she strays too far, I am there to get her back where she belongs. I feel that the relationship itself is more dynamic and intense because of that. I see and know so much more about her than anyone else ever could.
My submissive can and is, a lot more with me than she can be or would be with others. She is herself.
The Daddy Dom/"girl" aspect is one of the more misunderstood relationships around, and by extension, so are those titles. I am often asked if there is a want to relive childhood for my sub, or if there are father issues, etc. None of that is further from the truth, in my case...and many others. It is just as described. I allow her to be more open, vulnerable, free; all while knowing she is protected, safe and looked after. If she strays too far, I am there to get her back where she belongs. I feel that the relationship itself is more dynamic and intense because of that. I see and know so much more about her than anyone else ever could.
My submissive can and is, a lot more with me than she can be or would be with others. She is herself.
Wow @essenceofred....i know that whole "little" definition post was old...but I'm new...and only now just gasping in wonder at how clarified (can I even use that as an adjective...hmmm nevermind ) I feel right now.
First off I didn't realize there was a difference between baby-girl and little...kind of just lumped it into one...I know I know rude...but I'm young and only just now trying to define my space so to speak...
I now know that I am not really a little (and will def. be changing that on my profile...it was probably kinda offensive for me to put it there). I do REALLY enjoy snuggling, I like stuffed animals (though I dont sleep with one), I like discipline and probably can be pretty bratty while enjoying "school-girl" type role-play BUT I am not a little....it just doesn't seem like the right fit. While I would say that sometimes I feel vulnerable and all the time I cherish and recognize my need for the protective and caring more dom-type guys in my life...I think the biggest difference it that I do not nor have I ever felt "younger" than my age, and my rash lack of impulse control probably has more to do with my actual age and not a mindset. So while I'm not sure exactly where I fit in...I am close to little-type but not little-type. Does that make sense...ehhh...whatever I'm just typing out my rambling thoughts because that is what I do ..
Moving on, thanks a whole bunch for all the thoughts on here and if anyone happens to know a link to a really good website with more of this kinda "defining" stuff that would be uber cool.....because as of right now I am just me...and I would really like to feel this sort of defining,life-changing, identification moment you guys have...it sounds kinda like jumping past the rainbow into a field of unicorns
First off I didn't realize there was a difference between baby-girl and little...kind of just lumped it into one...I know I know rude...but I'm young and only just now trying to define my space so to speak...
I now know that I am not really a little (and will def. be changing that on my profile...it was probably kinda offensive for me to put it there). I do REALLY enjoy snuggling, I like stuffed animals (though I dont sleep with one), I like discipline and probably can be pretty bratty while enjoying "school-girl" type role-play BUT I am not a little....it just doesn't seem like the right fit. While I would say that sometimes I feel vulnerable and all the time I cherish and recognize my need for the protective and caring more dom-type guys in my life...I think the biggest difference it that I do not nor have I ever felt "younger" than my age, and my rash lack of impulse control probably has more to do with my actual age and not a mindset. So while I'm not sure exactly where I fit in...I am close to little-type but not little-type. Does that make sense...ehhh...whatever I'm just typing out my rambling thoughts because that is what I do ..
Moving on, thanks a whole bunch for all the thoughts on here and if anyone happens to know a link to a really good website with more of this kinda "defining" stuff that would be uber cool.....because as of right now I am just me...and I would really like to feel this sort of defining,life-changing, identification moment you guys have...it sounds kinda like jumping past the rainbow into a field of unicorns